1. The people in charge have all the answers.
That’s why they are so wealthy and happy and healthy and powerful—ask any teacher.
2. Learning ends when you leave the classroom.
Your fort building, trail forging, frog catching, friend making, game playing, and drawing won’t earn you any extra credit. Just watch TV.
3. The best and brightest follow the rules.
You will be rewarded for your subordination, just not as much as your superiors, who, of course, have their own rules.
4. What the books say is always true.
Now go read your creationism chapter. There will be a test.
5. There is a very clear, single path to success.
It’s called college. Everyone can join the top 1% if they do well enough in school and ignore the basic math problem inherent in that idea.
6. Behaving yourself is as important as getting good marks.
Whistle-blowing, questioning the status quo, and thinking your own thoughts are no-nos. Be quiet and get back on the assembly line.
7. Standardized tests measure your value.
By value, I’m talking about future earning potential, not anything else that might have other kinds of value.
8. Days off are always more fun than sitting in the classroom.
You are trained from a young age to base your life around dribbles of allocated vacation. Be grateful for them.
9. The purpose of your education is your future career.
And so you will be taught to be a good worker. You have to teach yourself how to be something more.
This is why I got really uneasy with the idea of becoming a teacher.
What grades determine:
- Your ability to memorize mostly useless things
- Your ability to regurgitate information in the way others want you to
- Your ability to understand what adults want from you and give it to them
- Your tolerance for working on tasks you don’t find useful because others want you to do them or believe them to be helpful/socially acceptable
What grades do NOT determine:
- Your intelligence
- Your creativity
- Your emotional capabilities
- Your likeliness to succeed
- Whether you’re a good person
Things to remember when applying to grad school.
I need to print this out and glue it on everything…
To the girls who say they want a nice guy.
Shut the fuck up. All us nice guys stuck in fucking friendzone know what you really want is some asshole to complain about to us. GTFO. We’re tired of it.
You sound super nice. I don’t know why no one wants to date you.
What a mystery.
I’ve had a bad day ok. I’ve pretty much given this girl, who I’m really close with, my heart and she shoots me down and starts telling me about all the guy problems. It just really fucking hurts and I felt here would be a better place to vent then some of my other options.
You know what? I know what it feels like to rejected. It fucking sucks and a lot of people are able to relate to what you’re feeling. You know what else I know? I know what it feels like to build a friendship with a guy. A guy that was nice and treated me like a human being instead of walking vagina he wants to fuck. I know what it’s like to become friends with a guy like this and slowly start to trust him. Slowly we build a really meaningful relationship and I let my guard down and I start to show him vulnerable parts of myself. I start to share my fears and weaknesses with him. I start relying on this important person in my life for support when I find out that I’m being dicked around by another guy who only sees me as a walking vagina he wants to fuck. And then this guy that I really care about tells me that he has feelings for me and when I tell him that I don’t feel the same way, he turns around and calls me a bitch. He says I friendzoned him and he goes on some social networking site and starts blasting me and all of his friends are like “wow what a bitch. She doesn’t know what she’s missing” and he gets to pity himself and feel validated. I, on the other hand, am left with the realization that my friendship, that this closeness we shared didn’t mean jack shit. That this guy I trusted didn’t care enough about me as a person to not turn on me the second he found out I wouldn’t date/have sex with him. Suddenly, I’m feeling this whole time, everything I thought we had, was only as important to him as his chances to get in my pants. And let me tell you, that hurts way more than rejection.
Here’s the thing, buddy. You’re not just one guy who’s having a bad day because you had your heart broken. Browse the friend zone tag. You’re just one of the many guys that post things like pictures that say “when a girl starts telling you about her problems, she’s not complaining. It means she trust you” and the caption says “Aaaannnd you’ve been friendzoned” like having a platonic, meaningful relationship with a woman is just THE WORST FUCKING THING EVER. Do you know how shitty it feels to know that your friendship and your trust is so fucking undesirable that there’s a goddamn meme about it? Do you know how shitty it feels to know that your guy friends only care you as long as they can hold on to the possibility of one day fucking you? Do you know how infuriating it is to know that that guy, that asshole who made you think he cared about you as a person, gets to flame you for daring to not be attracted to him? Because if you don’t know what that feels like, let me tell you that you’re not the one who got the shit end of the deal.
definitely not pms. this is all true.
The perfect response.
What a good reply.
one of the problems with the way k-12 education works rn is that?? not only is there the thing where not all intelligent kids are Good Students with Good Grades and Potential, the kids who do end up as Good Students tend to also be high-stress kids with self esteem issues and when they’re stuck in the Good Student-Bad Student dichotomy, guess what happens?? if they have a bad year, it fucks up their grades a bit, they need to take a year off for health reasons, all that shit? it fucking tears them apart.
because suddenly they feel like they’re a Bad Student and the k-12 system portrays Bad Students as stupid and lazy and less important and inevitably doomed to not “succeeding” (that high school > college > job > money shit they feed you until you graduate), and when kids are told for 14 years straight that being a Good Student is the most important thing, and it doesn’t matter if they’re not popular or all that other shit, because being a Good Student is the best thing about them!! it’s their best quality!!
and so when they abruptly (or even over the course of a couple years) stop being a Good Student because of things that are outside of their control or outside of what they can handle right now, like mental illness or bullying or health issues or family issues or money issues or a whole host of other things, it fucks them up so bad because they’ve been told their whole lives that what they’ve just lost is the most important thing about them, and then they just. have nothing left. and that is fucking devastating
this doesn’t suddenly stop being A Thing after grade 12